Whoa-ho-ho, Merry December! Look who’s back with another blog.

This one is a little bittersweet.

cw: mental health, racism, body image, eating disorders

After attending therapy at UCSF for three years, I am having my last appointment in two weeks. I am so eternally, incredibly grateful for both my therapists…


tw: eating disorders, body image

When I started writing blogs three years ago, not everyone was excited for me. A lot of people cautioned me to keep my struggles private, to not share too much. …


TW: trauma, eating disorder

Every few months I end up writing one of these blogs — celebrating an epiphany or new revelation in which I’ve learned to love myself a little bit more, and I think I’ve summited the mountain. It’s almost embarrassing, because I worry that one day people…


You’d think after all of the blogs I’ve written, therapy I’ve attended, friends and family I’ve consulted, and external validation I’ve received, that I’d have this whole “self confidence” thing down to a science.

Well, I don’t. Surprise! It’s taking many different experiences and epiphanies over the last ten years…


In 2017, I had just moved to San Francisco and knew exactly two people in the city. I ended up inviting people I barely knew or didn’t even know to my birthday party. They actually showed up! It was nervewracking, but awesome.

In 2018, I had just had knee surgery…


The life of an artist is hard, there’s no doubt about it.

In a world and society that has grown to value STEM professions over the arts more and more, and instant gratification over craftsmanship, it’s incredibly difficult to make a living being a dancer, a photographer, a painter… Ask any artist and they’ll regale you with stories of people offering them…


CW/TW: abuse, gaslighting
(this is a sequel to my blog “7 Things I Want You To Know About Abuse”)

In April, after 3 years of silence, I revealed some of my experiences from my first relationship, an emotionally abusive relationship, that I endured age 17–19. The reception was overwhelmingly positive…


safely experiencing vulnerability and connection in social dancing

Watch the video below.

These two are not in a relationship, and they are not acting. These are two highly skilled dancers, connecting on a level that cannot be fully conveyed by the camera lens, creating something fleeting but beautiful between them. …


And who to talk to

“Vulnerability is not weakness. And that myth is profoundly dangerous.” — Brene Brown

A few months ago, I was meeting someone at a party for the first time. After hanging out for an hour or so, he remarked, “You’re so energetic and happy, I love it.”

I automatically laughed in…


for “Pt. 1, Fighting the Selfish Lead Mentality,” click here.

In the social dance community, most of the time leads are the ones catching heat for being selfish; i.e., not leading their partner considerately. But follows are absolutely capable of this as well.

I like to delve into these subjects not to place blame or point fingers; rather, I think…

The Rhinestone

Brazilian zouk instructor, body positivity advocate. Changing the world through vulnerable conversations & self-reflection.

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